ACROSS THE MILES

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED.....................

Thank you all my friends who commented on my post about "Quarrel". I have gained a lot of insight about why we quarrel and what one can do.I thought I would summarize it so others can also take something back .

Why we quarrel:

1. We argue because we care.
2. Two opposite views always bring on a quarrel.
   
3. Sometimes we argue because we get a false sense of satisfaction when we win.
4. Quarrels emerge when one person feels threatened.
5. Most often we concentrate on the adversary rather than the issue.
6. The focus is shifted from the problem to the person.
7. Unless there is acceptance and realization that we cannot force our opinions and thoughts on others. we will quarrel .
   

What we can do :

1. Try to remain calm.
2. Listen with your heart and be patient.
3. Think before you speak.
   
4. Do not bring out past issues, try to keep focused on the present problem.
5. Do not say hurtful things.
6. Do not add fuel to the fire, instead find a way to dampen things.
7. Your tone of voice should be kept low.
8. Do not have an argument when you are already angry.
9. Try not to lose our individuality.
10. It is better to let go than to try to prove a point.
11. Feelings and emotions should be kept outside the box.
12. If you feel an argument is going nowhere it is alright to make a sacrifice and walk away. Swallow your pride.
    
13. Sometimes walking away shuts the other person out so return when the coast is clear and you are not angry and then try to have a decent conversation.
    
14. Do not try and force your opinions and thoughts on others.
15. And dear God please help me follow these rules!
    

DO NOT GO TO BED ANGRY.APOLOGIZE AND MAKE UP.

A Note to idol fans.
I don't think Sanjaya did very well yesterday on American Idol.I hope he gets another chance and is not voted out.I am still rooting for him.

I LOve this song By Cat Stevens.