Monday, September 18, 2006


FOR ONE MORE DAY:

There is a new book called "For one more day" By Mitch Albom that will be be in the book stores on sept 26th. It is all about getting one more day with the person you miss. I have often pondered on this very same question and was rather surprised to see an article in the paper about this book. What would I want to do? and who would that be?

I think I would like one more day with my mother. I would want to hug her, tell her I love her and then thank her for the many things she did for me , that went unnoticed. Having my own daughter has made me realize a lot of things. whenever I have a long talk with her, laugh about something we see or read about,or just being together or spending a day at the mall makes me happy, I think it is the little things that we do together that makes it special and I treasure every minute of it.

My mother would have loved to share these little moments with me and I did not let her. I remember leaving India and coming to the U.S. I was really upset with my mother. I did not want to leave my friends behind, I had just met "J" a few years before, it broke my heart to leave him and I blamed my mother. I did not talk with her on the flight. I was sad and it made her sad. I wish I could have been more understanding, made the trip better for me and her, she wanted a better life for me and thats why we left India. I was young and did not realize that. She passed away a few years later, right after I married "J" and before my children were born.

If I had one more day with her I would tell her I am sorry . I would take her shopping, sit on the park bench and watch the sunset, have an ice cream or just sit on the bed and talk. I would share my feelings with her and ask for her advice. Only now I realize that my mother had my best interest at heart. A day would not suffice because I would have so much to share with her. Its like meeting a friend you have not seen in years, there is so much catching up to do.where do you start?

I think this teaches us that we have to make each day special. Do what you can today to make each memory a good one. I have learned a lot, changed my life for the better, I only wish my mother could see me now.

IF YOU HAD ONE MORE DAY WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE
WHO WOULD THAT BE? AND WHAT WOULD YOU SAY ?

77 comments:

Yogi 3:08 PM  

well..i dont know, one more day makes you want one more day!:) hope you like the new layout!

chet 3:57 PM  

If I had one more day, it would be with my mother, I lost her when I was 15 and wished that I would have spent more time with her.

I love your layout, that looks great.

samuru999 4:04 PM  

Starry
I like this post!
I will come back later to comment..
as I don't have enough time now.
I just got in from work a little while ago... but am heading out again.
So, be back later!
Hope you are having a good day!

Margie

indianangel 5:25 PM  

Nice post lalitha! I dont know, for I've not felt like that so far - maybe its too much of a male arrogance in me, showing off that I'm a brave soul :) or maybe bcoz I've had an excellent life so far without any worries, but the reality is I've not really felt like that so far, and maybe one day I will definitely feel! Thanks for writing this lovely post!

Blessed 6:20 PM  

i too would choose my mother....
i did not know my mother she died when I was a very little girl of 2.
and what would I say to her?
have you been watching me from Heaven? when I looked in the mirror and saw you in my eyes, was that really you? why did you have to leave me?

priya 7:28 PM  

If she had lived for one more day, the day I came home, I wud have seen her alive.

V N 7:36 PM  

Starry this template of your ROCKS!! Its become all starry now, literally!!

:)

V N 7:37 PM  

There are so many things to be done and so many words to be said, if it were just for one more day... how true!!
:(

samuru999 7:40 PM  

All the time I was out I was thinking about this post!

IF I HAD ONE MORE DAY WITH SOMEONE
WHO IS GONE
WHO WOULD THAT BE? AND WHAT WOULD
YOU SAY?

That person would be a childhood
friend of mine.
Her name was Monica. I think of her every day!
We were such close friends.
But, she died at 16.
We always used to go swimming together every weekend.
I had planned on going swimming
with her on this weekend also...
but, I changed my mind, as I
just did not want to swim that day.
Monica was a little upset with me...but decided to go swimming with her dad.
Later in the same evening her mom
came by my house to tell me Monica had drowned!
I have always thought if I had been there, I might have been able to save her!
I was a very good swimmer...and I have always believed I maybe could have saved her!
Her dad tried to.. but could not!
There was a huge undertow ... and she was gone very quickly!

I would tell Monica I am sorry I was not there to try and save her life!
And, I miss you Monica..
I miss you every day!
And, I am happy Monica... and I hope you are happy also Monica!

This has made me quite sad!
But, there are many sad moments in
life that come back to us!

Margie

Keshi 7:43 PM  

This post had me in tears. Im still crying.


***It is all about getting one more day with the person you miss

what a great thought.


**I think I would like one more day with my mother

awwwwwww Starry...yes its the lil things that give us the most pleasure. Im so sorry that u feel sad now Starry. Even tho u were upset with ur mum for coming to the US, I'm sure u were not upset for too long were u?


**I had just met "J" a few years before, it broke my heart to leave him and I blamed my mother.

well it happens. When we r too young, we see parents' advice as something against us. It takes time and maturity for us to u'stand what they were saying. Dun blame it all on urself Starry. It was supposed to happen that way. We make mistakes and w elearn from them. The fact that u realised ur mistakes is good enough. Some ppl dun even realise that!

Im sure u had some quality time with ur mum b4 she died?? Im sure u did. Sometimes we r so buried in out grief for the lost one, that we think we didnt spend enough time with them. But look back and think of the good times u had with her. Im sure u have some beautiful memories too.


**IF YOU HAD ONE MORE DAY WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE
WHO WOULD THAT BE? AND WHAT WOULD YOU SAY ?

U know my ans already. It would be my dad ofcourse. He died too young. But I was very close to him and we had alot of good times together. My only regret is I didnt get more time with him. So if I meet his again like how I'd meet a long lost friend, I'd just first run to him and give him a nice long n tight hug and tell him how much I have missed him in my life. He has to know that. And I'd tell him that he has been the guiding spirit inside of me all these years and I'd thank him for the inspiration he left me with. For if not for his great qualities, I'd not have been who I am today.


Keshi.

Keshi 7:46 PM  

And Margie Im so sorry to hear abt ur friend Monica...what a tragedy! She was so young.

Keshi.

Robyn 8:04 PM  

Lalitha,

Beautiful post. If I had one more day, I would spend it with my grandmother who passed away 2.5 years ago. It was very shocking since she was in excellent health and very active. I would inquire about everything. The one thing I would ask her is what her secret is to keeping a marriage alive. My grandparents were married for over 56 years and there still was chemistry and spark. They exercised together, golfed, traveled. Just enjoyed life to the fullest. I hope to find that someday.


Robyn

ps. I love your new layout! I just returned from camping so I need to catch up on your blog.

deepsat 8:08 PM  

touching!!!

i like the new design of your page!! its beautiful!

;-))

Dr@ma Div@ 9:21 PM  

It would be with my grandmother who just passed away last april. I wish I could spend more time, love her more.... i wish

Hip Grandma 9:47 PM  

Lalitha:I wish I had one more day with my mother who passed away 5 yrs. back.She was ill and could collapse any time.I was being practical and planned my trip for the time when my brother's wife planned to go to her parent's place for vacations.My mother was loooking forward to my visit but left before I turned up.So much for being considerate to other people.I'm still not able to forgive myself for the lapse.I want just one day to tell her how much I wanted to be with her.How much I would love to have her for ever and ever.LLovely post lalitha.Brought tears to my eyes.

ketki 10:37 PM  

i too wish i'd have had just one more day with my dear grandma who left us just 15 days ago!

Anali 10:51 PM  

I like the new layout and great post! I would like to have had one more day with my aunt. She was my aunt by marriage, but I knew her my whole life and have such good memories of her.

She and my uncle divorced, but she sent me a card saying that aunts are forever. She moved away and then moved back to Massachusetts.

When she moved back, I had spoken to her on the phone and we planned to get together for lunch. I had found out we were working in the same city. We both got busy and months went by. Then out of the blue, she died.

I truly regret not taking the time to get together with her and see her one last time.

Aditi 10:52 PM  

That is a nice layout.. and a big big question..
I am sure your mother knew how much you loved her.. all mothers know.. although as a daughter it makes me realize.. i should speak up a little more about my mother

Gaurav Jain 11:24 PM  

wonderful thoughts and feelings. it's really quite something to think about if you're given another chance to spend 'one more day' with a person who's left you.

Gaurav Jain 11:25 PM  

By the way, you've been tagged!! (pls pick it if you haven't already done this before)

Suji 11:35 PM  

Very touching post Starry. For me it would be my grandmother who was a great lady. She passed away almost 12 years ago. There was so much I wanted to learn from her. But then one more day wouldn't be enuf...i would want many more days with her.

AlterinG Abhishek 12:33 AM  

wow
what an amazing change!!!!!

Ganesh Ranganathan 2:12 AM  

It would definitely be my grandmom....she was the only one in my family who pampered me and gave in to all my silly demands.....

She died 7 years ago and I miss her very much

Anu 4:15 AM  

In my case, it is not one more day but just one day. I never knew my grandparents. They died before I was born, except for my maternal grandmother who died the day after I was born. I always envied my friends who went away to their grandparents' houses during the holidays. How I wish I could meet my grandmother for a day now!

RefleXtion 6:14 AM  

Hey good job yogi...I came here and for a sec I was like....I''m confused!!! Then realised starry nights had adopted this layout...I like this post....leaves me with a lovey dovey feeling.

starry nights 7:18 AM  

Yogi..thank you. I just want to tell the whole world that you did this for me..thanks again.I cannot say that enough. I just love it.

starry nights 7:19 AM  

Chet..thanks..My friend Yogi designed this.really talented I must say.I feel the sam eway chet.

starry nights 7:19 AM  

Margie..take your time.thanks.

starry nights 7:20 AM  

Indian angle..thanks. It is wonderful really not to feel like this.I wish I did.

starry nights 7:21 AM  

Blessed..that is really sad. I am sure she was watching down from heaven and seeing you grow into this beautiful person.

starry nights 7:22 AM  

Priya..that is sad.

starry nights 7:23 AM  

Velu..so true. and the template is thanks to Yogi. I claimed it from his site and he was nice enough to share it with me.

starry nights 8:10 AM  

Margie..you should not blame yourself.sometimes we dont know why these things happen.its really sad. i am sure Monica knows.sometimes these wounds take a long time to heal.

Yogi 8:13 AM  

:) took your advice starry..put my credit in the right top corner, quite hidden so it doesnt clash with the layout.., and enough thanking!!

starry nights 8:14 AM  

Keshi..that was really beautiful what you wrote, you are right about being buried in grief that we dont realize.I just feel sad and there is not a day that goes by that i dont wish that my mother was here.I think it is her strength that keeps me going and has made me what I am today.

starry nights 8:15 AM  

Drama Diva..that is sweet.I never knew my granparents on my mothers side, they died young.I only knew my dads mother for a brief period before she died also.

starry nights 8:18 AM  

Robyn..thanks. first of all the new layout is by Yogi.another blogger friend who was kind enough to do this for me.I owe him a million thank you's. That is sad about your grandma.I think that doing things together brings you closer to one another, I pray that my marriage will survive that long.

starry nights 8:20 AM  

Thank you Preeta. I know how you must feel because I long for one more day also.I have realized that time does not wait for us.

starry nights 8:20 AM  

Ketki..that is sweet. I wish you did also.

starry nights 8:22 AM  

Aditi..thanks.and again the credit goes to Yogi. I think it is the lack of communication and presuming that she would not understand is what made me do what ai did.I am sure ai would have felt better had I talked to her, but I did not.But God has blessed me with a daughter that loves to talk and share things with me and makes me a part of her life.

starry nights 8:23 AM  

Gaurav..thanks.it is a big question. I will check out the tag.thank you.

starry nights 8:25 AM  

Anali..that was sad. we always feel that things can wait, I think it is human nature. I did too. I thought my mother would be with me for ever.I was 23 when she died.

starry nights 8:26 AM  

Suji.. so true. sad about your grandmother. I think one day would not be enough also.I would have so much catching up to do.

starry nights 8:27 AM  

Abhishek..how are you and where have you been. If you are talking about my template. its thanks to Yogi, he did this for me.

starry nights 8:28 AM  

Ganesh..Is that not what grandparents for, to spoil the granchildren.I am sure you miss her a lot. I am sorry.

starry nights 8:29 AM  

Anu..I feel like that. My maternal parents also died before I was born and also my paternal grandfather. I only biefly knew my paternal grandmother. I never knew what it was like to go away to your granparents house for a visit.

jhantu 8:30 AM  

Hmm I would like to answer, but it might lead to spilling of some unwanted beans.
Nice post though, as always

starry nights 8:31 AM  

Reflextion..yes Yogi was kind enough to share this with me. The moon and the stars is me.

R.E.B.E.L 9:43 AM  

tats a nice post :-)

priya 10:58 AM  

Starry,

Gmail has some problem and its not working. Wanted to surprise u today, but didn't leave a msg. I thought u must be resting coz didn't pickup. Will some other day...

Ashley 1:04 PM  

One more day .... I would spend it with my father. I would ask him all the questions I stil have and ask him to tell me all of his stories. When you lose someone so close, so unexpectedly, you are grieving for what was and what could have been and for all of the experience, information, and love that is no more when that person dies.

Fresh Ink 6:05 PM  

Hi Starry.. For me I wld love to hve gotten to know my maternal grandfather better. He passed on when I was quite young so didnt get a chance to know him well. Really touching post!

Keshi 8:40 PM  

Starry I came to check up on ya. Hopefully ur not too sad today.

I know...death is a painful lesson in life. It's so hard to let go of loved-ones. A death can wreck lives and haunt ppl for years. Trust me it has done that to me cos of my dad's death. Thats why u see me all depressed from time to time. The pain doesnt go away. It's just hidden.

Im sure ur mum is watching over ya...look at all the friend u have found here. Im sure it's ur mum's way of saying she knows how u feel, that she loves u alot too and that she wants u to be happy.

tc n hugggggggggz!
Keshi.

starry nights 9:43 PM  

Fresh ink thank you.I know how you must feel. that is really sad.

starry nights 9:44 PM  

Keshi..thank you for stopping by again.you are so sweet and thanks for the hugz also. i know my mother is looking down on me and maybe smiling and so is your dad.he must be proud of you. take care.

starry nights 9:45 PM  

Deepsat..thank you.

starry nights 9:46 PM  

R.E.B.E.L...thank you.

starry nights 9:46 PM  

Jhantu..thanks.

The Brown eyed one 3:52 AM  

AWESOME POST!!!

It's true that some times we take our close ones so much granted and we realise that only when they are gone. Lovbed the post Lalitha

emmanuel 4:56 AM  

nice one.......
feel a kind of fear when think over that "one more day"......if i have nobody to take???if that day is today???if the person i choose, is not willing to be with me?????

btw, the old layout was better.....anyway it's ur wish...

take care......

starry nights 7:03 AM  

Browneyed one ..thanks.

starry nights 7:04 AM  

Emmanuel..thanks, I just thought htis template suited my name starry nights.And I really love the moon and the stars.

starry nights 7:04 AM  

Browneyed one ..thanks.

samuru999 9:30 AM  

Lalitha
Thanks for your thoughtful words!
I don't really know if I blame myself about Monica... but, I do feel very sad and also guilty I did not go swimming with her as I had planned on doing.
I never saw her again... and that is a very hard thing to accept ...
even after years have passed!
And, I actually maybe could have saved her! Maybe!
That is so hard to live with!
And, it does take a long time to heal from these kind of things!
I am still healing!
These kind of things are just too hard to understand!

I am sure your mom knows that you
loved her... and love her!

Take care!
Margie

starry nights 9:40 AM  

Margie thank you. Ican only imagine the pain that you went through. really sad.I think these wounds may fade but they really never ever leave us completely , cannot be erased.

Keshi 5:34 PM  

tnxxx Starry! u too.

Keshi.

chitra 11:59 PM  

A new different lay out ! From all white to black ?


but attractive one .


Will comment later on .

chitra 12:00 AM  

A new different lay out ! From all white to black ?


but attractive one .


Will comment later on .

chitra 12:00 AM  

A new different lay out ! From all white to black ?


but attractive one .


Will comment later on .

Jeevan 12:48 AM  

Its very touching post Starry! If i like to spent one more day is with my Uncle! how was a real hero for me.

b v n 12:58 AM  

This hit somewhere :(

b v n 12:59 AM  

hey this layout is good...nice choice.

passerby55 2:41 AM  

hey lalitha
this new template....
is a smart look and i liked it.

tuesday with morrie...i think the same writer....

IF YOU HAD ONE MORE DAY WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE
WHO WOULD THAT BE? AND WHAT WOULD YOU SAY ......

i have a very plain/dim memory of this lady, she was a widow and she often came home and mom used to help her with some money. mom used to say she is a poor lady.
as a child i always wanted to ask her what she would do with that money. she loved children. she died some thirty years ago. but i still see her face as i saw her as a child.

a good post with a very good look to your blog.

starry nights 7:51 AM  

Chitra..thank you.

starry nights 7:52 AM  

Jeevan..sorry about your uncle I am sure he was a good man to have left an impact on you.

starry nights 7:53 AM  

Passerby..thank you. template was made by yogi. really sweet of him.

Usha 5:55 AM  

Lovely post.
I am going to think of all the people I will miss or who will miss me when I am not there and make it a point to spend one fulfilling day with them. meantime, must get hold of the book

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