"BE HERE NOW"

"J" had just returned from a leadership class from his work.He was trying to tell me what the class was about but I was busy trying to get dinner ready, so he sets this sign on the table which read"BE HERE NOW" and asked me to read it."What on earth is this and what does it mean" I said.

He began to explain to me how two people can be talking and one person is not really there.So often when we are at work we are busy thinking of home, the children and maybe what we will be doing on the weekend. At the same time when you are at home you may be thinking of work and the project you have to complete.The class also says that you cannot be effective in either if you are not there mentally and physically.We are often caught up in the past or the future that we lose our ability to be present in the moment.We do the same things at home.we are distracted with things going on at work that our relationships suffer and we lose valuable time that we could have spent with our loved ones because we are constantly thinking of work.

Another point that "J" brought up was the ability to listen.Listening to what is being said with an open mind rather than judging whether the person or the content is right or wrong.This allows you to see the other person's point of view.

I began to understand maybe that's why sometimes "J" and I don't see eye to eye .Maybe because one of us is not listening and we are quick to come to conclusions.I decided to read the book he brought home.It is written by the "Senn-Delaney consulting group" I learned quite a few things and I am trying to use it in my life.

The value of being here now

Better balance of personal life....The more that we can fully be present both at home and work the more we will have a rich, fulfilling environment in both places.

Easier, more fulfilling relationships...when people feel heard and appreciated, they feel better about you and themselves.

Less stress, more peace of mind....when we think about the past or worry about the future, our thoughts can often create stress and reduce our peace of mind,

Better creativity.. When you are in a reflective state of mind you can think better and you are more creative, that's because there are no distractions.

"Behavior is a mirror in which everyone displays his own image" Johann wolfgang

Another quote that i really liked."Some people are making such thorough preparation for rainy days that they aren't enjoying today's sunshine. William Feather.

Part two of this class will be posted next. I learned a few things from this book so thought I would share it with you.

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WHERE WAS GOD?


A magnitude-8 earthquake struck the coast of Peru.Thousands of families were left homeless.According to the peruvian Government the quake's death toll stands at over 500, with hundreds more injured and at least 80,000 people affected. Authorities estimate that at least 80 percent of houses in Pisco have been destroyed, leaving at least thousands of people homeless .

Pisco's mayor said at least 200 people were buried in the rubble of a church where they had been attending a service. Some 17 others were killed inside a church in Ica, according to the Canal N cable news station. The historic Senor de Luren church was among several heavily damaged in Ica, where at least 57 bodies were taken to the morgue.

Services were packed when the quake struck at 6:40 p.m. Wednesday because Aug. 15 is celebrated by Roman Catholics as the day when the Virgin Mary rose up to heaven.

As I sit reading this today I am sad because I ask myself this question "where was God?" These people were praying to God, most probably asking Him to take care of their families and themselves. I am always troubled when I read something like this. In my mind if God was the protector of all people how did he allow this to happen? I have so many questions and most of them unanswered. Most people will say that it is God's will,I find it hard to believe that God would do this especially to children. Do you have any answers. Where do you think God was?

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SILENCE

A moment of anger
hurtful words
Pierces the soul
shatters like glass
The pain is endless

Then there is silence
days go into nights
Nights go into days
No words are exchanged
No apologies,only the silence
and the pain.
Will it ever ease?

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CALM,QUIET AND TRANQUIL


UPDATE

I first want to thank each and everyone of you for stopping by and asking about my sister.I have some good news, the doctor said she does not need the last two chemo's so they have stopped it.she was getting very weak and her heart was getting overloaded. so now she just has to get stronger and her hair has to start growing back. We could not have made it without all the prayers and kind wishes from everyone especially all my dearest, dearest blogging friends.Thank you for staying with me through this rough course. Now I see the light at the end of this tunnel.I will be back blogging soon ,I have so much to catch up on and so many posts to read.take care.

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